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tomorrow's plan

what tomorrow looks like.
the funeral vehicle will arrive at the hospital at 10 am. there will be paperwork to be done.
When that is ready the hospital will wrap Leif in a sheet and wheel him and Mary down to the vehicle. He will be then wrapped in another sheet (not a plastic body bag) for transport to Fernwood Cemetery in Mill Valley. Once there Mary should be able to stay with Leif. Paperwork will need to be done. At that time they will be given the option to cremate or bury. My understanding is that cremation takes a few days due to paperwork but burial can be immediate. Please let me know if that is not the case.
Mary and Leif will stay in an airbnb in the area. within 4 days cremation will take place. Mary and Eric will be present and able to watch.  During the 4 days we hope they will be able to consider what they want to do. I think mary will want her friends to visit her at Fernwood daily and Eric will have the opportunity to hike and be alone in nature.
Volunteers Needed:
1) Someone needs to go with them to Mill Valley. I am happy to go but if someone else would rather do this please let me know.
2) People are needed to pack up the room anytime between 10-12 tomorrow and transport possessions back to house.
3) pack a bag for Mary and Eric for their stay at Mill Valley- unless one of them comes back to do that.

I am exhausted but sleep won't come.

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